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is with great humility, and not malice that I set out to write about what
has turned out to be a great part of my contribution to my community as a
broadcast journalist. As a young Muslim woman who started an International
broadcasting career at the age of 26, I chose to produce a weekly feature
titled “Family,” to enable me work on dealing with some of the struggles in
life faced by multitudes of women trying hard to contribute within their
families and communities. I have come to understand after almost twenty
years producing that weekly feature for international broadcast to West
Africa that most issues that negatively impact on a family relates to the
unjust position and limitations ascribed to the womenfolk within the
relationship. These are some of the issues that I would like to share with
the public, especially Muslims.
From the onset, I would like my readers to understand that this is not a fight, vendetta, or fault finding work just for the sake of it; far from that. I just realized that to ignore some wrongs one sees everyday just because one may be assigned one label or another for speaking out against it, is not a viable option for me. And as a wife and mother, to fight men just for the sake of it, is to fight the people I love, my father, brothers, husband and male children. So this is in good faith to allow us look at ourselves with an objective mind in order to find solutions, where needed to right some wrongs. Today I am concentrating on the treatment of women among Islamic communities across the world.
To understand how Islam as a religion views women in general one has to confine his search to the text of the Quran as the leading source and guide for all Muslims. Where one does not have an explicit verdict from the text of the Quran itself, then one goes to the second source of guidance to all Muslims, the Hadith (compiled works) (of) Sunnah (way of life and practice) of the prophet. Ahadith (plural) have been accepted as important second source of guidance because the Prophet of Islam was not only sent with the message from God, but has been charged to guide and set example for his followers. “In him you have a prefect example” says the Holy Quran.
So Prophet Muhammad (SAW) sayings, actions and verdicts in life have been followed carefully and documented for additional guidance to the Muslim. And of course his verdicts do not contradict, but further explains and puts to practice the words, rules and laws of God documented in the Quran. Apart from these two sources however, Muslims as a group have been influenced by as much practices that relates to women as there are cultural differences between the many countries of the world where the over one billion Muslims reside.
Early Islamic teachings in Arabia brought revolutionary changes to the life and culture of its immediate adherents, the Arabs. Some of the most remarkable changes affect the question of justice and equality among the diverse community of Muslims. After just a few decades, the warring Arabs were peaceful and compassionate to each other. The two main groups from the status quo that were affected by that change were women and slaves.
Though there still exists gender difficulties and problems that need addressing to bring the community of Muslims to the level propagated by the Prophet of Islam and its Holy Book the Quran, some Muslim countries are more adoptive of the teachings and quite ahead than others, again mainly based on different cultural backgrounds. Before Islam, it was not only slaves who were viewed by the inhabitants of Arabia as property; women were also viewed the same way. And the main reason behind that was not just that Arabs were inherently barbaric, they were engaged in excessive clan loyalty coupled with commerce with passion, something akin to capitalism of today where in its excessive grip sometimes humane policies of caring for the weak is trampled upon.
What made the Arabian situation worse however was that they were engaged in family and clan feud that usually lasted for generations. Blood letting based on familial enmity were very common. As such wars were fought almost all the time. War became so excessive that the Arabs by themselves decided to enter into truce for at least some months of the year. That allowed them some time to plan activities that were important and also those that ensured their progress. It also ensured safe passage to commercial caravans, as well as visitors to the Kaaba (then in the custody of pagans). It was through such wars that captives from the enemy or opposing clans were taken and kept in bondage at homes and businesses to engage in services of various kinds based on the sex of the captives. Since these captives were naturally long time enemies to the captors, they were not generally treated well.
Women were not treated well either. They were not viewed with value and dignity, so much so that at about the time Islam began to be preached, men were burying their infant girls alive, viewing the birth of a female child as something to be embarrassed about, or worse still, a curse. Women entertained men in all capacities at brothels, including dancing almost naked at drinking and gambling pubs, just like what you may have watched in Western movies depicting the Wild West of the United States, in the early years of immigration of Europeans to the American continent.
Islam did a remarkable job in weeding out immoral and unethical behaviors, and achieving some uniformity and bonding based on faith principally. Islam permeated other sectors of life as well such as doing away to a great extend with blood feuds between clans. The easing of blood feuds gradually eased captives taking and consequently slavery began to wane. Islam also began to resolve many judicial cases by the act of freeing slaves still in bondage. Such edicts concerned cases of murder, breaking an oath that one has committed to; and some other situations. Soon the slaves already taken were being freed. Finally Islam enjoined principles of treating ones slaves. For example, one was not supposed to ask a man in bondage to cook high class food for the master and people of the household, while the cook eat some low class food. The food the family ate should also be what people under bondage eat.
Writing about women in his book on the four Imams that were responsible for the four schools of thoughts in Islam, Aftab Shahryar states “The men were prepared to accept Islam as a revolution in relations in public life, an overturning of political and economic policies....but they did not want Islam to change anything concerning relations between the sexes.” “While slavery affected only the wealthy, the change in the status of women, (their right to inherit for instance) affected all.”[1]So though there were remarkable changes to the way of life of the average Arab in Mecca, Medina and cities between the two, with the advent and early growth of Islam, some changes were harder to swallow. I will discuss two.
The most important of these Islamic reforms that became difficult to adopt in my opinion was allowing community leadership to be based on knowledge and piety and not inheritance. The culture of clan loyalty soon overshadowed and overturned piety as a criteria. The study of Islam however, and the example set by the Prophet himself will clearly show that leadership in Islamic community should be based on knowledge and piety. The Quran makes it clear time and time again; that Allah does not take into account the wealth, position, possession, ethnicity, race, lineage, language or any other factor to rank people in His acceptance of their level or grade with Him. He clearly states in the Quran that the best of us is one that obeys His laws the most. So in Islam the most knowledgeable and pious should lead, not the son of so and so.
As stated earlier, before Islam, family lineage was a strong custom where the ordinary Arab will easily tell you his lineage by hundreds of years. So soon after the four immediate companions of the Prophet of Islam held the title of Amirul Mu’minin (Leaders of the faithful), the Arabs went back to the system of leadership through inheritance or lineage. In fact three of the four earlier Caliphs of Islam met untimely death through assassination. That demonstrates how strongly the feudal customary institutions were and their determination to prevail under any circumstances. The resulting rebellion to piety as the key to leadership resulted in acceptance of the monarchy we witness today in most Islamic countries.
Women also suffered the same fate. A reversal of their position started no sooner than the passing away of the Messenger of Allah. When the Prophet was living among the Muslim Community, women’s image had been raised to a position whereby they were treated with dignity. Women at that time were actively involved in both religious and public work. The wives of the prophet and other socially active women were known to have contributed to humanitarian work on battlefields, nursing the wounded, cooking the food for the forces, and supplying needed amenities.
Women were engaged in commerce, and kept properties and wealth in their own maiden names. In fact the Prophet’s first wife Khadija was a wealthy commercially engaged woman. Their life together, while she controls such vast wealth never came between her and the messenger of Allah. That was how simple and humble the Prophet was. He was neither jealous nor overbearing just because his wife is known to the public to be the wealthy one in their marital home. In reality, his life with his first wife Khadija was related as the most peaceful and satisfactory to the Prophet, such that he never took a second wife while she was alive, and would probably not have even after her but for the persistence of his companions and relatives who continue to watch him caring for his children alone, and suggested he takes in Saudah, a widow who might help him with raising and caring for the children. At that time he was already about fifty years old.
The Prophet not only taught during his lifetime that it was important to educate the women folk, he explained why. They are the first teachers for the formative years of the children, and naturally more involved in the upbringing of the children within any normal family. He treated his women with care and esteem. For example, though the Prophet himself led a very simple life, his wives Ummahatul Mu’minin were in a class of their own. While traveling they were usually mounted on rides enclosed in a mini tent while such camels were usually led by Muslim men on foot. That was why, as related while on one of such travels when Aisha (Rathiyallahu Anha) went looking for a jewelry she dropped, the caravan left without her, under the assumption she was in the enclosure on the mount.
Aftab cites occasions where some of the earliest ahadith on women were misrepresentations, deliberate or otherwise (Allah knows best). One of such Hadith reported in Bukhari collections by just one narrator Abu Bakra (Vol. 9 Book 88 number 219) is responsible for most of the position that people take today to suppress women participation in legitimate issues of concern to them, their family and community in general. Many people including scholars who lean towards Arab cultural prejudices use the Hadith to deny leadership positions to women, though they do know the credibility of Abu Bakra the narrator has been challenged by Amirul Mu’minin Umar himself, and such other narrations also challenged by others including the Prophet’s wife Aisha (Rathiyallahu Anha).
[1] Shahryar, A (2003) “Legacy of the four Great Imams” New Delhi: Islamic Book Service P.40